Great advice! Good outcome!
I guess some of them are just scarred
And with good cause. I have personal experience with why they can be "scarred". We have had 'developers' try to build commercial buildings adjacent our very small subdivision even though it required a zoning change/exemption. We also had a 'developer' build a minimum sized house and then try to subdivide the lot. The City Council actually went with our opinions over their own lawyers! Of course, we
elect the councilmen, not the lawyer!

BTW, we were helped out by another developer; he actually bought the remainder of the lot, even though it is too small and narrow to build on.

Of course, he can afford that cost much more then the ~45 home owners on our single-street, dead-end, "subdivision"!

Most HOA's I've known of are simply trying to protect their investment in their property. Of course, there are some who just want to have some kind of power over some one and give a bad name to other HOA's. Always best to read & understand these kinds of controls, but don't forget the ones in the city and county, either!

BTW, I would encourage any of you who have a HOA where you live to volunteer for some of the positions on their board. The pay is usually non-existent, but the help will be appreciated!